Your post is confusing.

First I
>got a nasty squeal (sp) coming from the ML and the car would
>not idle at all.

Okay, this sounds like you didn't get an adequate seal. I understand this.

I take the ML off and the hole into the
>throttle body is fucking hosed, chips all over the place.


Chips?? Hole into the throttle body?!?! What?

Ok,
>easy fix, got some black gasket sealant and used it on the
>outside of the o-ring on the ML.

Gasket sealant?? Why? The ML sits flush with the intake manifold surface and the MAP sensor plugs into the ML with an O-ringed seal.

Why not post a picture of your dilemma so we can get a clearer picture? This install should take all of 5 minutes without much to go wrong. After all, there's only two screws.

Got it all back up and let
>it dry. There is still a leak but not nearly as bad. And not
>it idles but barely and very rough.

Did it idle alright before you installed the ML?

I'd try to get it to work right before the ML and see what happens.

I check the fuel pressure
>gauge and its sittin at 20 lbs. Per the instructions I turned
>the top allen bolt on the FPR to see if i could get any more
>pressure out of it. Nada. 3 full turns and it didnt effect
>it any. If I give the car gas the guage pegs 0 lbs and car
>will almost die but it'll save itself.

I'm not sure what you have hooked up incorrectly such as your FPR or your fuel pressure gauge. It's hard to say at this point. But you should work to eliminate any vacuum leaks and make sure your FPR is installed somewhere between your fuel rail and your FPR.

The rest seems hazy at this point.

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Jason ESi-T

04' BMW 325Ci
91' Nissan 240SX
98' Eagle Talon ESi (sold)