Whats your model # of the system you have? How old is it? If its an older Clifford, like over a year, then i'm not too familiar with those, as DEI bought them out a year or so ago and are now totally different wiring wise. But, as to how to wire a relay, thats my specialty If you can find a link on line for the install manual to your unit, then I can def get you all set.

EDIT- k hang on, i am looking at the inststall guide now...

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S16G @ 18 PSI/FMIC/Running on MegaSquirt II (Now with sequential
fuel injection)
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