how difficult is it to get this to work? Im skilled with a dremel, would i need to do any bondo work or fiberglass? Anyone have pics?

I would just buy the headlights IMO.

I had 97 lights on my 96 bumper and i could fit my entire FIST in the gap.

So you would have to take off a fist size of bumper from each side near the headlight. Not worth the trouble imo

You would have to grind some of the plastic on the back of the bumper where it overlaps the lights. Since your grinding on the back of the bumper you wouldn't need to bondo or paint anything. Using the 95-96 lights on a 97-99 bumper won't leave you with much of a gap since the bumper will overlap the lights. The other way around, 97-99 lights on a 95-96 bumper will leave a pretty big gap though.

itll fit. you just have to pul pretty hard. mlp did it. he can show you what a 97 front bumper looks like with 95 headlights