now i have to either 1) go to a dealer and pay a service charge for them to check out the part on the car; 2) same as above but only show them the part (which is better cause they will blame the wheels)

yes, i did give them hell, and i made sure they knew i was pissed off.
i'm gonna be retarded and drive it the 250 miles home and bring the bearing in there (another car at home) also because i have the proper tools there. it's not grinding yet so i think i may be ok. if i die, please remember my stupidity and keep that in consideration when you think of doing something as dangerous as that.